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Published on September 6, 2004 By mignuna In Blogging

It is true that our 'sea change' has brought me many challenges. I have coped with these with varying degrees of success, but there is one area in which I fail miserably, and that is in tolerating the vermin known as the visit(wh)or(e).

Moving to a coastal location is wonderful in that your home becomes a holiday destination for those that you love and miss. Yet, moving to a coastal location is revolting in that your home becomes a holiday destination for everyone else you know or have ever met, and even the odd person you haven't.

People who never even knew our address when we lived in Sydney, (much less made a habit if calling over) have suddenly begun to appear from the woodwork at holiday times to form a queue on our front doorstep.

My personal favourite is the knock on the door at dinner time that turns out to be some 'acquaintances' that are driving 'up to Queensland' from Sydney and have conveniently decided to stop for the night. After a 7 hour drive, they usually have the energy to eat the meal I rush to prepare before they retire to the bed I've hurriedly changed to 'get an early start in the morning'.

The following morning we invariably awake to find our 'guests' have left at the crack of dawn, their only legacy an unmade bed, no milk and assorted breakfast dishes. If we're lucky, they also use our towels and we get to wash them with the linen we have to take off the bed they used, too. People are so thoughtful.

Personally, I'd rather pay for a motel room than impose myself on a casual acquaintance for an unannounced overnight visit. Yet it seems I am in the minority there.

My hubby and I are on the point of telling everyone we know "no visits unless we know a few weeks in advance". We had hoped for an 'open door' policy for close family and friends, but these uninvited guests who actually seem to think they're doing us a favour in 'stopping' by have put an end to that.

I love nothing more than providing hospitality to those that I really do care for, but I am becoming so resentful of the invasions of 'fair-weather friends' that I have learned to dread the warmer months. My hubby is threatening to send the next unexpected dinnertime doorstep arrival to a nearby caravan park, and as much as I have avoided this so far, I fear that even I may have reached my limit.

Perhaps it's time to install a 'no vacancy' sign at the 'Dew Drop Inn'.



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on Sep 10, 2004
Good afternoon.......Mignuna....How is your day panning out??

i will, crusaders. i will !!!!

Sounds like you haven't have any visitors for a while and may actually miss the kaos that comes with!?

Did I here you say at some point that you live in Melbourne or was it Sydney??


on Sep 10, 2004
Mig, the love is returned. Thank you for the compliment.
on Sep 11, 2004
Sounds like you haven't have any visitors for a while and may actually miss the kaos that comes with!?


until yesterday, yes, crusaders !. now i have a friends' very energetic 8yo son for the weekend. Oh, the mess !. Oh, the choas !. Oh, i love it !

Mig, the love is returned. Thank you for the compliment.


you are most welcome, dusk

Did I here you say at some point that you live in Melbourne or was it Sydney??


crusaders, i live on the north coast of new south wales, the nearest town is "coffs harbour". it's about 6 hours north of sydney (where i lived my whole life until recently). our suburb is called emerald beach .

vanessa/mig XX
on Sep 12, 2004
Turning them down is NOT rude, them showing up like that IS.


you know sabrina, i actually think you worded that rather well !. shall i make a sign ?

I had the same problem when i lived in Ft. Walton Beach, Florida....and found that technique worked very well. If their feelings were hurt, too bad, but i felt no guilt about it, as the demand was unreasonable in the first place.


i do agree. it is an unreasonable demand, but i seem to feel guilty anyway. time to nip THAT in the bud, huh ? hehe

heh, our area was called "the emerald coast."


it sounds lovely. *sigh*. except for the visitor vermin, that is !

vanessa/mig XX
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