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... one night stand double-standard inference, anyone ?
Published on September 11, 2004 By mignuna In Personal Relationships

We were driving late Saturday morning when we were stopped by roadworks right next to a bus shelter. Gazing bored out the window, I noticed a girl of around 20 seated in the shelter and clad in what was obviously her clothing from the night before.

Her high heeled shoes sat on the bench next to her. A beaded evening purse sat in her lap. The day was cold and her very short sequined dress wasn't offering much protection.

But by far the most striking thing was the look on her face. Shame. Her clothing was crumpled, her face a smudged mess of stale makeup, her glance kept resolutely downwards. She had been out all night. And now everybody knew it.

I make no assumptions as to where she was or what she did, but whatever happened led her to be alone in last nights' clothes and makeup in a bus shelter amongst a busy passing crowd of curious families and leery men.

People disapproved. And she knew it. But she didn't know why. And I’m not so sure I do, either.

I remember an occasion when I drove into my street some years ago at 11am to see my (male) flatmate strolling jauntily towards me from the other end of the road.

As I drove to meet him, I noticed that his walk was almost a swagger. He had a big grin on his face. His jacket was held by one finger over his shoulder. He was carrying his shoes. And he was so damned proud of himself !.

All the other men mowing their lawns winked and whistled at him if they were sure their wives weren't listening. Like some Mexican-wave of male pride, they all popped up one by one to admire the conquering hero, imagining that all sorts of unsavoury adventures were had.

The irony being that those adventures were with a girl like the one at the bus shelter, I guess.



Comments
on Sep 11, 2004
In my circle of friends the girls party just as hard as us blokes and have no shame in doing so. Guess that's part of keeping company with Gypsies.

-- B
on Sep 11, 2004
Excellent post Miggy

I know the cocky swagger you speak of, and I know the look of shame you talk about - it all comes down to personally choices - you know this, and it was that girls choice to do what she did, and she should make all choices with pride... of course, we are only speculating, but generally, they always have a choice...

BAM!!!
on Sep 12, 2004
In my circle of friends the girls party just as hard as us blokes and have no shame in doing so. Guess that's part of keeping company with Gypsies.


it sounds like you treat each other equally, mr frog, whichis they way it should be

and it was that girls choice to do what she did, and she should make all choices with pride


i agree, muggy. yet sometimes the world view differs unfortunately.

Excellent post Miggy


thankyou, treasure !


vanessa/mig XX

on Sep 12, 2004
Mig... you really have no idea who I am, do ya?

you should be ashamed, like the girl you wrote about... hehehe j/k

i'm gonna check back tonight and see if you figured out who I am. i hope you get it right. (and no asking for help either)

but anyhoo... another look at the double standard that women unfortunately have to deal with. I agree with Mug on this one... it's about choices. I knew a gal once that would have not only held her head high at that bus stop, but she prob'ly would have gotten a ride to wherever she was going using only her sexuality to con some hapless business man into helping her out. And she wouldn't have even had to 'return the favor'...

...

...

unless she chose to do so.
on Sep 12, 2004
Mig... you really have no idea who I am, do ya?


no, i don't !. and if you DO know me, you will be aware that i HATE surprises of any type .

you should be ashamed, like the girl you wrote about... hehehe j/k


me ? heh. never !

I agree with Mug on this one... it's about choices.


well, you can't choose how the world percives you, but i agree that you can hold your own head high.

I knew a gal once that would have not only held her head high at that bus stop, but she prob'ly would have gotten a ride to wherever she was going using only her sexuality to con some hapless business man into helping her out. And she wouldn't have even had to 'return the favor'...


oh, to be such a woman, huh ?


vanessa/mig XX
on Sep 12, 2004
i'm gonna check back tonight and see if you figured out who I am


i haven't.

i hope you get it right


i didn't.

and no asking for help either


oh, blah on that. help ! help !


vanessa/mig XX
on Sep 12, 2004
I'm so disapointed...

*sniffle sniffle*
on Sep 12, 2004
I'm so disapointed...


oh, blimey blast bother buggery bollocks. i'm sorry !.

what can i say ?. here is what i know: american. male. aged between 20-24. intelligent. knows me. opinionated. calls me 'mig' and not 'vanessa'. isn't a current ju blogger (as far as i know). is in a different time zone.

gimme a break, here. i'm an old woman now

vanessa/mig XX
on Sep 12, 2004
*psst . . . mig . . . I don't know who it is because he's from before my time, but I do have another bit of info . . . you want it?*
on Sep 13, 2004
all i know is, you're gonna shite yourself when you figure it out...

only a couple more days now... hehehe
on Sep 13, 2004
*psst . . . mig . . . I don't know who it is because he's from before my time, but I do have another bit of info . . . you want it?*


hehe texas, i should admit that i read a lot more than i comment !. i have read almost all of your blogs, and i know the comment to which you refer !. i am a bit sneaky that way hehe .

texas, i read a lot of blogs almost religiously, and yours is one of them. i have this thing about leaving comments every time i read now. i found it was stopping me from having time to read as much as i wanted. it used to drive me mad trying to keep up with all the bloggers i like !!!.

so yes, i have read the comment to which you refer, and it just confused me more ! waaaaah ! what am i goona do ? lol


all i know is, you're gonna shite yourself when you figure it out...


oh, come on now ! no fair !. and i hope i do shite myself. i could use the excitement, frankly

only a couple more days now... hehehe


hehe is this 'blog foreplay' ? bwaaaa haaaaaa


vanessa/mig XX
on Sep 13, 2004
Mignuna,

I guess you can relate it to the guy who is free and easy with sex...."The stud"...and the girl who is the same though her title is less than positive..."The Slut"......
Do we have equality between Men and Women.......um...No...not yet...
on Sep 14, 2004
I guess you can relate it to the guy who is free and easy with sex...."The stud"...and the girl who is the same though her title is less than positive..."The Slut"......


exactly, crusaders

Do we have equality between Men and Women.......um...No...not yet...


indeed !

vanessa/mig XX
on Sep 15, 2004
Interesting article.

I certainly know plenty of girls who dress up at night and would be quite embarrassed to meet their normal workmates dressed like that during the day. They're not embarrasses with how they dress or how they behave (which is definitely not as sluts), just that they would look so out of place in the morning. Many a morning we'd be returning from London dressed up after a ball and the lads would still be joking and laughing, while most of the girls would be cringing in the cold (wearing sleeveless dresses and short skirts usually), wrapped in the bloke's jackets, and just wanting to go to bed sleeping. Not embarrassed with what they did, just wanting to get home and change.

Quite possibly not the situation you saw with that girl though!

Paul.
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