some things you can't cover up with lipstick & powder

Published on April 26, 2004 By mignuna In Sex & Romance

my ex love once told me that i was the the most perfectly beautiful woman that had ever existed.

then he came.

after which he remained as adoring a partner in general, but i noted he had somewhat amended his description when he sent me a postcard from the louvre in paris which stated that "no masterpiece here has the bland hope of arousing in me the passions that your perfectly-imperfect face can".

it is most fortunate for me that i perceive this as the compliment that it plainly is.

i, dear reader, am not perfect !

*gasp*

(in fact just this morning my "boob-tube" top fell off as i was hanging the clothes on the line. i think the idea being that boob-tubes are supposed to be FULL of , err, boobs was something i may have overlooked).

not only am i flawed, i have the nerve to accept my flaws and insist that others do too !. can you imagine ?.

my poor husband has to live with a woman who dyes her hair "shades of pizza" (his words) and who is paler than most dead people !.

to add insult to injury, i am also several years older than him. and it shows !!!!.

women in such circumstances can become overcome with the urge to mount a most vigorous "anti-aging campaign" !!!. this generally takes the form of expensive potions that claim to defy physics and enter the organ (skin) which was designed to repel such things !!!. ...miracle creams indeed, those

.

unsurprisingly, i have not fallen victim to such "renovation" efforts.

i am too cranky and tired to bother, and frankly, i doubt my husband would notice or even care unless he spotted the resultant bank account black-hole ...

... and by this, i am lucky enough to understand that he loves me "just the way i am".

(any doubts about my ageing he may have had were soon quashed after his viewing of ooooold photographs of the spiral-permed, fake-tanned, toweled-on-make-up, stiletto-wearing 19yo horror that was to ahem, mature, into his pale and unpainted wife of today).

he thinks i look much better now.

and although i admit it would be difficult to look worse without real effort, it does send a very important message to women whose idea of being "sexy" is to leave the lights off during sex in case "he" sees your "insert-flaw-here" ...

the effort you put into controlling his "perfect" perception of you is wasting a lot of energy on something that can only ultimately harm you.

if you're not a perfect woman, i suggest you plainly say so. leave those lights on !. have sex first thing in the morning !. let him see you. all of you. naked in every way. show him what it is you're "hiding" ... your thighs, your wobbly butt, your "imperfect" skin ... whatever it is.

and if he loves you, then chances are you'll find out he already knows it all, anyway. sees it all, anyway. and already loves it all, anyway.

which begs the question ... if he can love you for it ... why can't you ?

Comments (Page 1)

imajinit

on Apr 26, 2004

your wobbly butt

HAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHA!!

You said "Wobbly Butt" !!!

ahahahahahahahhahahahahahahahahhaha

i'll still be chuckling after i hit the send button...

wobbly butt

mignuna

on Apr 27, 2004

michael, you are a very naughty boy

mig XX.

imajinit

on Apr 27, 2004

naughty is as naughty does

Muggaz

on Apr 27, 2004

Ness...

you are a very special woman!!!

I wish all woman on JU read this... us men dont like chicks are insecure... I love chicks!! flaws and all!!!

especially you Mig! *blush*

BAM!!!

mignuna

on Apr 27, 2004

thankyou mark. i hope all the women on ju read your comment ...

... being the devilishly attractive fellow that you most certainly are

... i think it's great to see that you love women ... WOBBLY BUTTS and all.

hah !... there, michael, i said it again. may you fall off your chair right onto your own (wobbly or not) butt with mirth over that, "bro"

mig XX

dharmagrl

on Apr 27, 2004

I just pondered the same thing. So, I've decided to not wear any makeup all week in order to re-acquaint myself with 'me' in all my bare-faced glory.

As far as wobbly butts go...mines a bit wobbly, but I like it. I've learnt over the years to like my physical self, flaws and all.

I can't wear a boob tube, I have too much up top and it always spills over the edges or otherwise falls out. Perhaps if they made them bigger...?

WiseFawn

on Apr 27, 2004

,this is just wonderful! I'm 43 and feel like I'm finally accepting being in this body I was given. The boob tube thing reminded me of being 15, at the fair in a bumper car, wearing one. Every time someone hit me, down it came a little more. The guy that ran it got in a car and came out to tell me!

crimson

on Apr 27, 2004

I don't like my body all that much, or rather, I hate my stomach, which has never returned to the same shape as it was before having a baby. But, having said that, I'm comfortable with it too. If it bothered me that much, you can bet I'd be doing a whole lot more about it. I feel pretty and sexy when someone tells me I'm looking good, but I also feel that way, on my own as well. I'm not insecure, but I think you can dislike a feature of your body without being labelled as such.

JillUser

on Apr 28, 2004

Women can have perfect bodies and be ugly as can be on the inside and have imperfect bodies but what's on the inside makes them perfect in their loved one's eyes. My hubby loves me, flaws and all. I love who I am but am hoping to improve some of the exterior. Like Nic said, some things don't return to their original condition after kids. I am hoping to decrease the wobbly to my butt but have no problem living with it for now.

Great article!

dharmagrl

on Apr 28, 2004

Like Nic said, some things don't return to their original condition after kids. I am hoping to decrease the wobbly to my butt but have no problem living with it for now.

Too true! I got lucky; I don't have stretch marks on my belly and not too much loose skin. My ass is wobbly, but who cares? I'm cool with it, my husband likes it...and after seeing some of the *older* ladies in the locker room at the gym I'm grateful that I look the way I do!

imajinit

on Apr 28, 2004

The best thing about a wobbly butt is what happens when you slap it

There, I said it

JeremyG

on Apr 28, 2004

Good read! thanks

dharmagrl

on Apr 28, 2004

The best thing about a wobbly butt is what happens when you slap it

What the, never-ending ripple effect?

...mine would ripple on and on ad infinitum....

mignuna

on Apr 28, 2004

dharma, wisefawn, nicky, jill, michael, jeremy, and of course you muggaz. thanks

.

may we perfectly-imperfect girls continue to love our (ok, one more time, michael) wobbly butts.

(after inciting all that love for wobbling, i should confess at this point that i myself do not, err, "wobble" much. in fact from the back i look rather like a boy. i adore the rounded female form and am horribly jealous of all your "bits", girls-who-have-them).

thanks again everyone. mig. XX

trina_p

on May 04, 2004

That article rocked!
At 20 I've only worn makeup like 5 times in my life - all important occassions - wedding day school formal best friends wedding etc
For one it's darn uncomfortable I especially can't stand anything that goes near my eyes
and for two I doubt I'd wear it even if I could be bothered putting it on - it doesn't really enhance anything I don't think - I still look the same with or without it.
I have Dharma's problem with the boob tubes and Migs with the butt. While I didn't gain any weight with my baby I'm covered in stretch marks - destined to never wear a bikini again even if i wanted to

Praise God for the guys who look beyond all the pretty clothes and makeup and love the woman underneath. See's past the stretchmarks and cellulite and wobbly butts and loves your great quirky sense of humour, or the way you love your kids or the way you take care of everybody -- Bless the men who love their wives/girlfriends because of their faults and imperfections (not the word I was looking for)

I Love my Husband.

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