stoopid

Published on August 3, 2004 By mignuna In Humor

i have been giving some mental airplay to my "failures" lately. i find it strange how we all tend to carry around a big bag of 'regrets' that is full of our 'mistakes', our 'miscalculations', the chances we didn't take, the words we didn't say ... our 'what if's'

now imagine for a moment that you didn't have them. any of them.

you never did anything 'wrong'. you always knew exactly what to do. hindsight was yours, and it never failed you. you lived your entire life, and you never made a single mistake. not even one.

who do you think you might be right now ?.

for example, if i took back the ‘mistakes’ in my life ... the things that challenged me horribly yet i somehow survived ... i wonder who i might be ?

i may have lived my entire life thinking that i could never have the guts to voice what i think and stand by it even in personal distress. i may have never known this amazing freedom i have now.

anybody can still attack me, this is true. but there is not much to be had in the way of anyone being able to use their shitty opinion as a barb against me these days. i guess you'd call that learning.

i've learned to look at my mistakes for what they are ... they are the times i took a chance. okay, so i didn't always win, but those were the times when i had to walk blind and do just do my best with what i had.

my mistakes were usually big, but i'd never take back a single one. i can just never know which trial it was that gave me which part of the person i am now. nobody can.

in wishing our mistakes away, we are wishing ourselves away. wishing to wipe ourselves clean to some robotically-perfect standard of behaviour. it is our mistakes that make us. and if you don't believe me, listen to the experts ...

"if you have made mistakes, even serious ones, there is always another chance for you. what we call failure is not the falling down but the staying down" ~ mary pickford

“the man who makes no mistakes does not usually make anything else either" ~ edward j. phelps

"nowadays most people die of a sort of creeping common sense, and discover when it is too late that the only things one never regrets are one's mistakes" ~ oscar wilde

"freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes" ~ mahatma gandi

... and my personal fave ... is anyone still reading this ?

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"if i had to live my life again, i'd make the same mistakes, only sooner" ~ tallulah bankhead

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Comments

Ravenblack

on Aug 03, 2004

If I never made mistakes, I guess I would probably be very arrogant and, unforgiving and not at all understanding to people who make mistakes. On hindsight, life would be kinda boring without a few mistakes. I think though, that there are some mistakes that are fatal and will ruin your entire life if you make them. Maybe trotting through life making small mistakes here and there, and learning from them kinda prevents one from making one huge life ruining mistake.

scatter629

on Aug 03, 2004

true. mistakes are suppose to be learning posts we circle around to better ourselves by not repeating them in the future. But when you look back and look at some of those mistakes and actually admit that those were the happiest times of your life..when you didn't know any better and you were...yes, stoopid. That's what you mean, don't you?

mignuna

on Aug 03, 2004

If I never made mistakes, I guess I would probably be very arrogant and, unforgiving and not at all understanding to people who make mistakes

a good point, ravenblack, and hi

On hindsight, life would be kinda boring without a few mistakes

indeed it would

I think though, that there are some mistakes that are fatal and will ruin your entire life if you make them. Maybe trotting through life making small mistakes here and there, and learning from them kinda prevents one from making one huge life ruining mistake.

that's how it's supposed to work, anyway. we can hope

. thanks for your comment

yes, scatter629, that is just what i mean

. i never seemed to get the same amount of growth out of anything positive, and i rarely gave credit to my times of growth and chance (and yes, joy), as being the helpful experiences that they were. thankyou for your comment.

vanessa/mig XX

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